We've all been there. In the throes of a conflict with a loved one and desperately trying to hold on to our pride and dignity. Sometimes we're just hoping to avoid running head-on into any shame we might feel as we face our own worst behaviors. While the coping skills we use to protect ourselves against those most uncomfortable vulnerabilities can leave us feeling emotionally protected at the moment, these behaviors also lead to more damage for the relationships we're trying to preserve.
Drs. John and Louise Gottman have studied these behaviors in great detail and their findings have led to anecdotes that can help heal fractured relationships. Watch the video below and follow the link to read more about what they call "The Four Horsemen".
**Note** Understanding the behaviors described in Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" does not take the place of knowing when you could be the victim of relational or emotional abuse. If you believe you are suffering at the hands of a narcissistic or abusive person, you have the right to protect yourself with boundaries - even if that means an exit from the relationship.
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